Essentially,self-confidence is the belief in one’s ability to succeed. Contrary to what most people think, people who have high self-confidence sometimes doubt themselves or their abilities; elite athletes report feelings of apprehension and pressure prior to competition but still perform well.
I remember when I got into the university, I came from a public school background and unfortunately success rate in our WAEC exam was low. I was one of the few that passed and got admission immediately but there was a challenge the confidence I had in secondary was all gone upon seeing my colleagues and how they bagged excellent results all A’s and B’s while I was a feeling king with my C’s. Confidence level dropped but I didn’t let it stop me from graduating with excellent result, one of the best in my department.
How did I do it? Stayed tuned you’ll know.
So being confident doesn’t mean the absence of negative thoughts or feelings. Rather, self- confident means believe in ones ability to perform well despite feelings such as apprehension or doubt.
We all experience such doubts once in a while, even the best of us does, but what separates average form greatness is that thin line between what you do when you feel down and otherwise.
Can self confidence be built or developed? Or is it something some are born with and others are not? Self confidence can be developed and here are a few tips I have used in developing my self confidence.
If you feel you lack that self confidence here are tips that should help
- Look at what you have achieved: taking a look at the things you have achieved personally is a great way to boast your confidence, as it brings to you the reminder that you are good and great things have been wrought through you.
- Think of the things you are good at: thinking about your potentials and you positives also will boast your confidence, personally I can think about my great football skill don’t know what you think you are good at buh u r definitely good at something than someone, cheer yourself up with it.
- Set some goals and achieve them: oh the joy of setting goals and achieving it, if I were to set this tips accordingly I would put it as no 1. I can still picture my face when I achieved my set goals I feel confident about the next task.
- Always dress nice: nothing can kill your self confidence faster than dressing poorly, where good clothes it doesn’t have to be expensive ,but dress well and comfortable, I would recommend not too tight clothes and not too loose.
- Talk to someone about it: if none of this works for you, you can consult someone who can help you but you must be careful who you tell as not everyone can help and some may use it against you.
Author: Victor Adeyemo
Victor Adeyemo is a Leadership and high performance coach, an Event decorator and MC. He is the team leader of Leaders Digest